when one falls in love with best freind

Platonic friendships are often not so platonic. A survey shows that one in four "best buddy" wants more. Discovered one of them his feelings for the other, it is for those involved is anything but easy.
It could all be so simple: two people know each other like, and spend every free minute together. He listens patiently to their problems, they cheer him on when he is lovesick - as good friends do it just for each other.

But with the harmony it can be over quickly if one of them suddenly feels more than friendship for each other.

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A survey found one-quarter of single men have toward their best friend for more than purely a friendly feeling. Is eleven percent of single women the same way. Psychologists speak of Harry and Sally's syndrome.
However, there is an interesting difference between the sexes. Many men find their platonic girlfriend attractive, however, women described their platonic friend only seldom attractive. They seem a difference between potential partners and platonic friend to make.
Love threatens friendship
"Who in the crush on best friend or your best friend, is often only once in a bind," says Wolfgang Bergmann, a psychologist from Hanover. "One thing is clear. If you stand on his feelings will change a lot - but not necessarily for the better," boys and girls who are in this situation, therefore best to think first about their own feelings before the other pure pour wine, Bergmann recommends. Is it really love or is there perhaps something else behind it? Dating Ad Contact eDarling warranty at: Find your Dream partner!
"Many do in such situations, just a hard time - have stress at home, at school or at work. They are frustrated because something does not work that way, "says Bergmann. Therefore they feel in the presence of the best pals especially well. He or she exudes calm, you feel safe with him. "And these feelings are like confused with love."
Sometimes you discover the new best friend
According to Manuel Tusch have sudden feelings for his best friend often deal with a transitional phase in which one of them puts straight: "A good friend might have just taken his first job, and thus acts at once more mature and responsible," says the couples therapist from Cologne. "Therefore it's best friend sees with different eyes. This may lead to feelings in any case. "
Whether these feelings have to do with love, show the passion with which one feels attracted to another. "If I am willing to tolerate certain behavior on my best friend and even great things suddenly find that he likes, then has this been going in the right direction," is sure to flourish. But the boundaries are blurred. Of course it could be that you fall in love like a bolt from heaven into the best friend, says Bergmann. "I can not necessarily recommend that people, however, the other to confess everything just right."
Karsten Noack, communications coach warns of Berlin, also from falling to the door into the house. "Far better it is to figure out a trick, as the object of desire is on the subject." One way is to talk about other couples who were previously friends.
"On the reaction of a friend can usually see already how he thinks about it. If he declines such thing, says the really everything," he stands the matter becomes open, it pays to be more specific: "You can even simply sometimes ask the question: Could you imagine it with us, "says the psychologist Noack pair?.
Under no circumstances arouse false expectations
Swarmed have also often not easy: "I Confess tricky my best friend is her love, the situation for me," says Karsten Noack. "I must assure you, the importance of friendship for me, and make clear that a partnership must not automatically be better."
In no case should false hopes. Manuel Tusch sees in relationships that have emerged out of close friendships, even benefits: "Both have much confidence in each other from the start and could already see in everyday life. So they know what they're getting into. "