How to sodomy

In this paper, Elisa shows you how to make anal sex and give your partner want to try sodomy. Follow the advice of our columnist and learn how to spell a sodomy that will please your partner without pain and he will want to try again.

The other night I was at the restaurant with my friends. And, inevitably, our discussion turned to sex ... and, that evening in this case, anal sex and sodomy. More precisely, the difficulties for boys to address the issue with their partner, and the questions posed by couples on the act itself.

Here are some tips for those that are interested in sodomy, but not sure how to bring the subject into their marriage, who would know how to do a sodomy in good conditions, or, convince their partner that sodomy can be a source really a lot of fun (and there is the woman speaking).

It may seem obvious, but for anal sex with your girlfriend, it is still necessary that it is envy.
1. Make him want to try
evaluate his state of mind vis-à-vis the anal sex

Start by addressing the subject of the most detached as possible, "Here I read that 73% of women say they engage in sodomy."

Watch his reaction and hear what she thinks. If it is suspicious is that you missed the subtlety. If she reacts negatively, try to know at what level it blocks. It is likely to be some misconceptions about anal sex and sodomy (hygiene / cleanliness, pain, risk of incontinence, taboo, demeaning to women, etc.).. It is then necessary to reassure her: read our other article on sodomy for more info .

Start by letting the person off topic (do not tell her right away a tube of lubricant is waiting under the pillow!) And do the talking for her to relax about the subject, and make him want to document itself. Show him your attitude is a practice that "acceptable" to you: If it's natural for you, it will be for her. The more you speak naturally anal sex, the more it will relax on the subject.

Do not be pushy, let the idea catch on. These early discussions should whet his curiosity, and possibly push to inform itself on anal sex and sodomy.
Enter anal sex in your sexuality

When you feel more comfortable, tell him you'd like to make him discover it for you something very intimate and you would like to share with her, spice up your sex, that sort of thing. If she reacts negatively, or that you still feel uncomfortable, return to the previous step, set the comfortable and be patient.

If you feel open, you will be able to initiate smooth anal sex. To begin with, you will have to "sexualize" her anal area: it is not accustomed to take pleasure when stimulating this part of his body, he will therefore be necessary to awaken the erogenous zone that is not yet known.

In future reports, during intercourse or foreplay, gently caress her entire perineal area (between the vulva and anus) and the anus. Use your fingers and if it is comfortable, your language. When you feel you can advance, stimulate his anus with your tongue and fingers. If you like this, push your tongue into his anus, it's a heady feeling, both for the one who gives and who receives.
Fingering her anus: Insert a finger, not directly (which would cause a tightening reflex), but gently pressing the pulp of the index or middle finger on his anus, as if you press a bell: the anus opens and welcomes your finger. It is a technique used by doctors. Look no further than one or two phalanges, and do not move too early, if you go too fast at the comings and goings of your fingers in his anus, and that lack of experience, she will feel she is losing control of his anus and it is now dirty linen in front of you: the nightmare of every girl normally formed. Accordingly, it will ask you to stop. So certainly not back and forth too fast.
Try to have a finger in her anus when it has : it should multiply his pleasure in it and then embed the idea that anal sex = pleasure.

Surprising the first time, these new sensations should arouse curiosity and make them aware that this area may be unaware of it until now ALSO be a source of pleasure. One thing led to another, it should force to want to go further.

Try to reproduce the experiment several times, so it really gets used to the idea and feel (it may take some time for this feeling becomes a "strange feeling" to "good feeling") . Above all, do not rush, do not force it if it is not comfortable (in this case, you should discuss a little).

If you are followers of the toys, try to achieve what it accepts that you introduce a dildo (not too big!) Into his anus, first during foreplay, and when you enter (by doggy style for example). Ideally, an anal plug (a dildo with a flared base and wider, which holds its own when inserted). Use lots of lubricant (water or silicone-based, saliva is not enough). Past the surprise, she will find that the feeling, though new, is not unpleasant, and questions the potential to make him sodomy classic.
2. First anal sex: how to make a good sodomy to your girlfriend?

It is your girlfriend is open, your first experience pleased him, it excites, in short, she wants to try anal sex: you now to ensure she fond memories ... and she wants to start !

Overall, these tips repeat those given in this article for a good sodomy .
His preparations it

Given the primary role of the rectum, some (s) prefer to make sure everything is clean in that area. Of course, it is best that your friend has made a turn to the bathroom just before if necessary, a quick shower and the situation will be comfortable for everyone.

Number (s) prefer to be squarely before their enema anal sex: This refers to "flush" the rectum using an enema bulb (sold in pharmacies) or shower heads made expressly for (so that it enters into the anus). For an enema, use warm water AND NOTHING ELSE (no soap, which destroys the intestinal flora and irritate the intestinal wall, especially not alcohol that irritates and is quickly absorbed into the bloodstream and can cause serious problems). It should be noted however, that the rectum is empty after a trip to the bathroom, there is generally nothing and the washing is not required at all: however, it feels like some, and it has a reassuring. See for yourself.
Excite it and prepare it to anal sex

Remember this golden rule: "stress = women anus closed"! It is necessary that your partner is relaxed (and excited of course). For that, the preliminaries are a necessary step. Not only a relaxed and excited girl is less difficult to penetrate, but in addition, There are far more likely to make it in a state of mind where it is ready to try to go further.

Begin preliminary and classic at the same time with a little lube, fingers his ass. Then when you feel the feeling is good, focus only on the anal area. Continue to caress and fingers do not stop until she takes it fun so it is completely relaxed. Go slowly, vary the angle, put a finger, then two or more, use a dildo or a plug for the more adventurous, and follow his feeling to it.
The penetration

When she is ready, take a position in favor of the first sodomy. Personal I think the doggy position most suitable, but you can also put you face down and straddled it (better for the more stressed). If necessary, use a cushion to guide its basin.

Apply lubricant liberally to your gender and anus. Put your penis in her anus, and apply gentle pressure, but firm and steady. If you go like a nag, if you force the entrance, you do it wrong and the block ca.

Do not try to put him to the hilt. Start by introducing your glans and an inch or two ... and stay a while without moving, until the muscles relax, and it gets used to the presence of your sex in his rectum. If you give in the preliminaries have been an anal plug, it is possible that the muscles are already relaxed, and you can spend the phase "relaxation".

Start with short back and forth without seeking to penetrate fully. As and when going deeper and "adjust" according to the feedback of your nana.

For the rest I can not give you more advice: it's your time to both. Only one thing: it is she who decides, not you. Do not force it, do not rush (c is a highly personal act of receiving a sodomy respect this gift that you made: no selfish pleasure guys please!). It will take time to get used to open and does not spoil while wanting to go too fast the first time.

According to the report, talk to your girlfriend that she thought of what she felt, what she most liked and least so on. This valuable information will help you improve yourself again and stick as closely to their expectations.
A retaining

A good anal pleasure 100% 0% pain requires good preparation: playing with her ​​ass (enjoy!) And do not rush
In anal sex, she leads and orders, NOT YOU
Protect yourself with a condom if you or your partner are not tested negative for STDs (and in this case, no ANNULINGUS is reserved for couples tested and faithful as too risky).
Use the lubricant quantity for penetration (water or silicone based, not oil or petroleum jelly that damage the condom and expose you to disease).

Follow these tips, and have fun both. If she gets off, you will take it too, I guarantee it!
Enjoy!