Anal sex and anal sex

Long taboo sexual practice, sodomy interests more and more couples, and raises many questions. However, between myths and stigma carried by intolerance, outright lies and misconceptions, many continue to circulate false information about sodomy.
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Once and for all, let all the light on the subject.

Sodomy is the penetration of the anus and the rectum or partner, usually with the penis, although a sex toy to replace it. Using a strap-on, a woman can sodomize his or her partner and thus reverse the roles.

For anal sex, in this article and throughout the site, you will hear all forms of anal eroticism, including manual stimulation, lingual (the tongue) and penetrations of all kinds .

pressure and sex
The area of the anus and rectum first centimeters is very rich in nerve endings (well above the vagina!), Its stimulation can be a source of intense pleasure for the recipient. In addition, when the recipient is a man, stimulation of the prostate can lead to powerful orgasms according to testimony.

Unusual feeling for recipients beginners, it may take some time before the discomfort is replaced by the pleasure the recipient, regardless of sex, must get used to the feeling and reassurance. As the donor, the anus is tighter than other outlets, penetration gives him a certain pleasure.

Ideas about sodomy

Many ideas about sodomy, here's what to know and not believe.

Myth # 1: sodomy hurts

Contrary to popular belief, sodomy is not and should not be painful. In fact, with good communication, trust, gentleness, lots of lube, and when properly prepared, sodomy does not hurt, and a lot of fun for both partners. If There's pain there is that you do it wrong, too fast or you have not prepared enough sodomy with foreplay.

Myth # 2: sodomy is dirty

With minimal preparation, sodomy is not dirty! The rectum is emptied after using the toilet and hygiene normal / balanced diet provides all the required cleanliness. In short, you can allay your fears about it. That said, it does not relieve you of the actions of basic hygiene (shower, bath, ...). The washing is by no means mandatory.

Myth # 3: sodomy causes anal incontinence

This urban legend has a tough life: yet it is as stupid as the claim that masturbation would make deaf. The anus is not like a shirt that expands by pulling: it is opened and closed by the muscles. However, if one can temporarily relax muscles by working them, they always return to their original tone (do you think the fact of using your arm muscles use his?). In fact, anal sex would make it more tone the sphincter muscles and thus, enhance muscle health of this whole area.

Myth # 4: sodomy is something perverse / slutty / of homos

Few people talk about it since this practice is still taboo and decried by well-meaning, but in reality, many people exploring anal pleasure, women and men, both as donors and recipients. Your neighbor has probably already tried (and probably she loves it, and despite their claims, many heterosexual men enjoy / appreciate receiving a finger or two or more. Question of openness, and daring sex!

Evidenced by the amount of accessories for the anal sex sold in recent years, and the constant increase of sales: now, customers no longer limited to gays, but according to the owners of sex shops, more women "clearly heterosexual" come to buy plugs and dildos-belts.

For a good anal

Besides the pleasure strictly physical, the psychological dimension is added: the feeling of breaking a taboo, forbidden to indulge in pleasure, that of a practice satiated "demeaning" to explore the most primal instincts, but also the pleasure associated with the idea to afford, or to submit to submit another.

Anal sex and security

The walls of the rectum is very fragile, There are frequent brownouts during anal intercourse, which makes it very dangerous unprotected by encouraging the transmission of STDs as well as any kind of sex you MUST protect you if you and your partner are not tested negative for STDs (AIDS and other diseases). If your partner is your girlfriend or your boyfriend, you can not do without if you are tested and faithful both. If your partner is a sexual partner, protect yourself: do not risk your life for an orgasm.

The rules (non negotiable) are:

Use condoms for anal sex (never more than one at a time, otherwise they will crack and break)
No ANNULINGUS (or else use a condom oral)
Avoid fingers (if you have micro-cuts, you can pass or be infected) or wear latex gloves, and have short nails and limes

Grease!

Contrary to the vulva and vagina, anus and rectum do not secrete natural lubrication. Saliva as a lubricant and insufficient penetration is likely to be difficult, painful and damaging the fragile walls of the rectum. It is therefore necessary to use a lubricant (or "inner gel") in generous amounts, and 'reapply if the report should continue.

Prefer water-based lubricants or, better yet, silicone. Never use oil-based lubricants or grease such as petroleum jelly, which damages latex condoms and exposes partners to infection with STDs.
Prepare sodomy with long preliminary

The anus was "locked" by powerful muscles, sphincters, take time to relax and excite your partner, and so prepare the muscles to facilitate penetration, otherwise it will be painful for both.

Use your fingers, your tongue and / or sex toys (dildos, plugs) and lots of lube to prepare your partner's ass (follow the safety rules outlined above). Take it easy, do not force, and pay attention to his reactions: for anal sex is the receiver who runs. Never forget that "partner stress = anus closed."

Sodomy "dry", without lubrication or preparation visible is a myth conveyed by the porn movies: do not be fooled, the actresses are "prepared" before the scene, it's just that 90% of preliminary are edited out.

Health and sodomy.

Many are held back by the primary role of the rectum, and the fear that the report be dirty or unpleasant (remnants of fecal matter, odors, bacteria, ...).

In fact, as was mentioned above, in a normal person, feces are stored in the large intestine and only passing through the rectum, so after a trip to the bathroom, there is nothing left "inside." Gestures of hygiene and possibly a shower before sex ensures the most perfect cleanliness. As a precautionary measure (and because it can raise troubling sensations), some like to do an enema before starting a sodomy. The enema is to flush her rectum with warm water. However this may weaken and irritate the rectum, and is, needless to say, not at all necessary.

However, care must be taken not to engage in other penetrations qu'anales after sodomy: you could contaminate the vagina or mouth of your partner with bacteria of the intestinal flora. It is therefore highly recommended to use a condom for anal sex, and change if the sex to continue after anal penetration.

In conclusion

Hopefully this article has made you more familiar with the subject, he could answer any questions you could ask, and he was able to allay fears and misconceptions that you might have.

However, we scratched the surface of anal sex, and we are limited to flying over the important points.

Let's finish this introductory article with a quote, that of the famous American journalist (and pretty young woman) Tristan Taormino, in the preface of his book:

"The first time someone put a finger in the ass, I nearly faint. [...] I have so enjoyed the new sensation that I was therefore eager to renew it. The first time I in my turn, put my finger into the anus of another, the experience was rich: I felt all the confidence in my partner, abandoning, exposing me her most intimate vulnerabilities. [...] The anal eroticism had more room in my sex life and she became terribly exciting. My sex were particularly hot, my partners very bold and my orgasms more explosive. Physical sensations I felt were some of the best I have ever experienced. I also confide that beyond the "gratuities" body, the feeling of breaking a taboo thoroughly excited me. I knew that even the most dirty of my friends did not do that, or if they did, they never talked about it [...] "

Tristan Taormino's book, All about anal pleasure , is by far the most complete and most readable of all the books ever written on the subject.

Finally, for those who might want to go further, I published another article explaining how to make a sodomy in good conditions: from my experience and that of my friends, it is guaranteed 100% helpful, ° % intox. No doubt you will find it useful and enlightening if you ever want to deepen your experience in this field.

Enjoy!