Friday, September 16, 2011

What to do after a first date?

So you've taken the first difficult step: meeting with the other and the passage of the dreaded first date. And it was a success, phew! Yes but now, now what? How to behave? Read these valuable tips and you will know what to do!

Remain calm ...

Do not panic! The first meeting went well, so stay calm. We must move slowly and not rush anything. Love is often a history of patience. Consider the situation: you like it really? Do you really want to see him again? A relationship with him is it possible? Always take a step back after a first meeting, where you can quickly become euphoric, with a simple "love at first sight" or a strong attraction produced by the physical, through the temporary euphoria ... This prevents us from seeing clearly and to be realistic. Do not get carried away a bit and analyze the evening! Also take notice of your friends.

The famous phone call!
Do I remember? Wait for him to do? After how long can I contact him? All these questions run through your mind and you turlupinent ... How do I know if we take the right decision? Well, let me tell you, it's impossible! There is no rule: we must listen to his desire. Your desire is to call it? Do it! Keep it simple and clear in what you want. Do not play cat and mouse. This kind of game often ends up misunderstandings that must be clarified when it is still possible to do so.

How long?
Yes, not easy to pursue a successful first meeting. We often want to do it again right away and another flood of messages, text messages and phone calls immediately. So when can we do? There is no time prescribed. But do not be too urgent. Even if you wait four or five days, he will not have time to forget you for a family with another woman. But against, do not wait too long either. A phone call two months would probably not ideal. The solution? A small text message two or three days later to report that the evening you Plue. Then offer another outlet a few days later. Proceed in small steps!

Radio silence ...
You wait until you call and the phone does not ring? Do not worry! This may be a reserved boy who does not dare to do so. And if he was afraid of you rushing? Perhaps he is waiting for your call? Do not panic: silence can be interpreted in several ways. Yes, for sure, it may be that you do not like the gentleman. It happens ... But it is also possible that this is the opposite! And in this case, the other may fear to the idea that you are good! Those with whom he wants to establish a solid relationship. The best way to find out is to occur. Thus, no doubt: you will be set.

An appointment original!
For your second face to face, try different from the first time. A trip to the movies or the theater followed by drinks in a bar or a cafe, a restaurant meal, a walk during the day, visiting an exhibition ... Vary the ideas! This is the best way to get to know a person. By discovering what it likes to or not, how it behaves in a particular situation ... It is sort of mini-tests very revealing. By cons, avoid trips that do not talk.

It takes time ...
Think that after this second hot date, there will be another and so on ... Finally, if every time, all goes well. Be patient and not rush anything. Thus, it will be easier to give a second chance to the other if you do not immediately ignite. Love at first sight is not systematic, far from it. A relationship blossomed and solid builds gradually over time. And if the person you like, even if only a little, let him know. Tell him you enjoy his company. And if it is reciprocal, perhaps your mutual pleasure will turn into a beautiful love story ...